In life we come across a smorgasbord of people, good and bad. The great thing is that ultimately we have the choice to choose who we want to surround ourselves with, people who make us happy or the people who don’t.
I have had relationships, family, friends and otherwise, that have been a negative force in my life; people who are a constant source of drama. The type of relationships that take and take until you don’t feel like you could possibly give to them anymore without having to compromise who you want to be as a person.
When I was younger I dealt with it because I was told it was polite and that even if the person causing you grief is family, they are family so deal with it. But, shouldn’t it be the other way around, shouldn’t your family be your biggest supporters? A safe place where you can share your feelings and concerns and have it be taken seriously? Yes everyone needs time to vent, release and interpret how they are feeling. But when you have that one person in your life that is constantly a downer or a cause of irrational drama, you start to wonder why they’re in your life at all.
You can be in relationships where you love the person and yet they are not good for you. If you keep these toxic people around they can poison your life and cause you to lose a piece of yourself; that can be very difficult to get back. So instead I have decided to surround myself with “Shiny Happy People.” Now I am not talking about people who spew out sunshine at an alarming rate. I am talking about genuine nice, happy people that may sometimes have off days but overall are supportive, helpful and loving.
It is beneficial to surround yourself with relationships that better you and you better them. People who you can be the true you without false pretenses or judgment. WARNING: These people are not perfect. They will have their bad days or horrible events that they go through, but that’s when you have to step up to the plate and be their support system. It’s a two way street, and if you both travel in the right direction, your friendship can be a pretty exciting road trip.
Finding those great, healthy, symbiotic relationships can take a while. But the search to find people that are effortless to be around is an endeavour worth exploring. Once you do find those relationships it makes you wonder what you were ever doing before.
There is already an abundance of negativity in the world, so why would you permit it in your life when you have the choice to stop the drama?
It is important to remember that “Everyone can make you smile... but only certain people can make you happy.” ~Unknown.