Sunday, January 23, 2011

Have Date Nights

It sounds simple enough, have date nights! But when all the things we fill our lives with get in the way it’s hard to do. I am lucky enough to have an amazing husband, family and my crazy friends who let me just be me.
 It all started a few years ago with the girls getting together on Wednesday nights to watch one of our favourite girly shows. We then injected a little bit of wine, dinner and then the boys started to join in. It eventually grew from a way for us all to watch our shows together to a weekly check in with the friends. A way to keep connected in person, not just through text or Facebook. Some weeks we have dinner, most weeks we have drinks. We even went as far as having theme nights, crazy hair day, crazy hat day and pyjama party (the pyjama one stuck almost permanently). We rotate whose house it will be at and whose bringing what. You cannot imagine how therapeutic it can be right in the middle of a crazy week to know you have those couple of hours to be you and vent or relax or be whatever you want with your friends. Changing from something to squeeze in to avoid the wrath of and then turning into something we all kind of needed and waited for every week. From there some of the couples adapted it to their own little date nights. It’s crazy to think that you need to schedule dinner and a movie with your spouse, but trust me you do and it works. I think that as we get older and busier we take advantage of the ones we love, thinking that the relationship is already strong so no need to cultivate it, romance it! But that’s how friendships grow apart, relationships in general. We change as people every day, so how can we expect anyone to keep up with our changes if we don't include them?
So in closing get one the phone or text or Facebook and schedule a date night with your group or special person. Catch up, reconnect, laugh, cry, GO CRAZY and just be you. Life can throw you some crazy out of nowhere curve balls, in my little group we've had our fair share, but it’s amazing how much faster you recover with your friends and loved ones by your side with a solid catcher’s mitt.

Lotsa Love,


  1. That's my girl. I love you so much.

  2. It's amazing and so true. I don't know what I'd do without a little Date night TLC to get me through some weeks. Can't wait to read more!

  3. Nice good read, good points. Sometimes it sounds silly for a date night. I don't have date nights, but I might give it a try :)

  4. Totally with you on this one.. Break out the dinner coupons and pony up for a sitter. Make that date night happen!

    Don't wait for valentines day either!

  5. Just read your post on date night so true i have a poster in my office that reads friends double your joys and divides your grief. a couples strength does not come from what they own it comes from the connection of knowing and growing in their relationship as time goes by and life takes you through so many changes.
    keeping connected is the key date night has always been a priority in papa and I's marriage so hang on to it. love momma